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Category Archives: Kathy’s last days and aftermath
16/09/2009: The funeral director
The funeral director was better trained than the registrar and one could have basked in her insincere but welcome words and helpful guidance. A true professional. My list: Crematorium, Wednesday 30/09/2009: 13.30 Car for 4. Let her know if more … Continue reading
16/09/2009: The registrar as therapist
The three of us went over to Bromley to the registrar of Births and deaths. The essence of the day was the manner and attitude of the Deputy Registrar. She had the bedside manner of a cockroach. She was tetchy … Continue reading
14/09/ – 15/09/2009: Hospice overnight
Decided J to go home. ‘Not tonight’. 03.00 in the morning. Been with Kathy every step of the way but couldn’t finish the job. ‘Never there when you are needed,’ she use to say. I was asleep. Didn’t get James in. … Continue reading
14/09/2009 Hospice
Second day without eating and no drugs given except pain (intravenous oxymorth) and steroids. “I fee sick,” or “I don’t feel very well” she keeps saying. M the staff nurse spoke to me. Ironically the one I thought did not … Continue reading
13/09 – 14/09/2009: Hospice overnight
During night still not mastered pain control. Up most of the night trying to manage K’s nose bleeding. She keeps saying. “I’ll be alright won’t I?” I don’t think she knows me mow.
13/09/2009: Hospice
At changeover waited nearly an hour with full bladder trying to wrestling her way out of bed. Eventually they fitted a catheta while I was chucked out. If I had known it would be an hour (please give us a … Continue reading
12/09 – 13/09/2009 Overnight at Hospice
A long bad night. Night staff , a nurse and a carer, absolutely terrific – a perfect balance of care and relief. They know how to support patients family unlike the two old fashioned nurses, ward manager and other, who … Continue reading
12/09/2009 (2) Hospice
Nurse spoke to me this afternoon. Did I think Kathy was fully aware of what is going to happen and are we. Asked me how I was, if I was worried about J&D and how I thought Kathy was. Said … Continue reading
12/09/2009: Hospice
Very confused this morning. ‘Jusr closing your door for five minutes.’ “Not another one,” Kathy said. Removing the bodies. When you think about it, it’s that kind of place. Asked me to bring in her make-up bag.
11/09/2009: Hospice
Severe stomach pains. Laxative working well. Thinks she is in a home in Wales and Mary (cousin) visiting her. Later when more coherent she said that one of the night staff was welsh. Perhaps an association. Also got a visit … Continue reading